Besides resilience (the topic of yesterday) the emotional and social skill of conflict resolution also plays a key role when you try to prevent bullying. Active listening is a key method to find a conflict resolution. When you gained the other person’s perspective without interrupting or immediate responding then you can continue by using I – statements instead of You – statements. With I – statements you avoid accusations which encourages an open dialog to find a common ground.
Sometimes you cannot find shared interests or goals (=common ground) so you have to stay calm which is easier with some reserves in resilience. This helps you to prevent the escalation. Another helpful method that prevents the escalation is to focus on the problem not the person. You can combine all of this with the ABC method where you first try to search inside yourself why you could get angry and if it is possible to change your own view about what happened. When you have a strong social network of friends you can also discuss your own view with your friends and brainstorm together how to find a solution to resolve the problem.
Together with Stones on The Path – Blog: Daily Light (earthlykingdom.org) and Resilience – Blog: Daily Light (earthlykingdom.org) this third light is here for all people who feel weak and suffer in school or at other places because of bullying.
If these lights become helpful people might show Daily Gratitude – Blog: Daily Light (earthlykingdom.org). However you should show gratitude also when you live a comfortable life. It helps you to avoid hedonic adaptation and increases overall happiness. So together with this article you have a set of daily lights to go on a path for happiness instead of sorrow. Sometimes you learn these stones on the path when you decide to e.g. study at university like described in Meditation in the shadows of a tree – Blog: Daily Light (earthlykingdom.org). Sometimes you try to take advantage of the seeds that were planted in the past and find yourself in an unlucky situation because of other classmates. But remember you are never locked to your fate. You can learn the toolkit to overcome these challenges.
At the end most of the people are still in an egocentric reasoning and the spiritual groups are a kind of bubble. Whenever you get in contact outside the bubble you face the reality that consciousness levels are very low and lots of people primarily look for their own benefit. As described in The balanced center and the snakepit – Blog: Daily Light (earthlykingdom.org) you should have strong borders and negotations on the edges with such people might fail. That is normal and a sign of a healthy state of mind that you can easily say No to some parasites who would take all of your energy from you until you feel depressed or burned out. Try to surround yourself with people who have a growth mindset instead.
May all of your wishes become true. May your visions become reality. May the stones on the path be challenges that you overcome to gain strength at the end. May the suppressive forces dissolve everywhere. May the light shine through your work, may it be shared everywhere and help in the darkest hours. And may success follow the lessons learned and lead you to new friendship with others.
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